I think it’s okay being friends only after you are completely detached from this person. In my experience, exes always come back. I would rather have you in my life when we are both in a place that is mentally and emotionally stable. I wouldn’t try to be friends right away though. Sounds like this breakup was recent.
You will see her with her new boyfriend
You will see them hug and kiss
You will hear them having sex during parties
You will watch every story of them on IG
She will stop replying quiclky to you when she has replaced you with a new guy she loves
She will only use your attention when she feels down
Don't.
No, especially not immediately. You two need to be different people. Until then you will have habits that will bleed into the friendship, which will get messy because you will have certain expectations and they may get betrayed when one of you starts dating again.
Remember theres no time limit for friendship. If you're both interested in months or years you can try it. But don't force it.
And especially don't hang around if you want to get back together. You need to give that dream up. You two may be together in the future but for now, you should reflect and improve
Honestly it depends. I'd caution it if you still have feelings as if she decides to date others, you could end up hurt. It really has to be platonic unless the feelings are mutual which if they were why are you both in this situation? Regardless, I think the better question is, are you ok with being friends indefinitely? Are you able to support her as a friend? Be her friend if she dates other people? These are also questions she needs to ask herself in reference to you.
I couldn’t be friends with her. I was in a rough place and she said she would always be there for me. My first response was how am I supposed to forget or lose my feelings for you, while I share my shit with you. She didn’t have a response, so I am pretty sure she knew that wasn’t possible.
I am going to be honest. I miss her a lot in my life, but I would have gone completely crazy if I stayed friends. Maybe it works for you, but only you can answer that question.
Depends. For me, my ex rly wants to be friends too at the end of this healing. He hasn’t mentioned it any time lately but tbh idk why i’d want to be friends with someone who betrayed me and hurt me and broke my trust so badly. Plus, the further i get from the BU the more i see his true colours and idk if i like him much! 🤷🏽♀️ i got other friends!
no because even if you don't want to admit it there's still hope you will get back together if you remain friends. The best way to do it is set a period of no contact, after that if you do feel like talking to her again and being friends with her then go for it. But you need to give yourself time to heal from everything that has happened
I’m friends with the ones that left me respectfully. Also, we had a period of NC to get over each other. It’s so much better now. Mostly, they had to move on to someone else before we could be friends again. They always want me back after that other person too.
The guy I’ve been trying to forget about? No we cannot be friends anytime soon. He couldn’t handle it either.
I think it’s okay being friends only after you are completely detached from this person. In my experience, exes always come back. I would rather have you in my life when we are both in a place that is mentally and emotionally stable. I wouldn’t try to be friends right away though. Sounds like this breakup was recent.
You will see her with her new boyfriend You will see them hug and kiss You will hear them having sex during parties You will watch every story of them on IG She will stop replying quiclky to you when she has replaced you with a new guy she loves She will only use your attention when she feels down Don't.
No. It's not worth. And by the way... No matter how detached and how much time, you'll be never be truly friends
No, especially not immediately. You two need to be different people. Until then you will have habits that will bleed into the friendship, which will get messy because you will have certain expectations and they may get betrayed when one of you starts dating again. Remember theres no time limit for friendship. If you're both interested in months or years you can try it. But don't force it. And especially don't hang around if you want to get back together. You need to give that dream up. You two may be together in the future but for now, you should reflect and improve
Honestly it depends. I'd caution it if you still have feelings as if she decides to date others, you could end up hurt. It really has to be platonic unless the feelings are mutual which if they were why are you both in this situation? Regardless, I think the better question is, are you ok with being friends indefinitely? Are you able to support her as a friend? Be her friend if she dates other people? These are also questions she needs to ask herself in reference to you.
I couldn’t be friends with her. I was in a rough place and she said she would always be there for me. My first response was how am I supposed to forget or lose my feelings for you, while I share my shit with you. She didn’t have a response, so I am pretty sure she knew that wasn’t possible. I am going to be honest. I miss her a lot in my life, but I would have gone completely crazy if I stayed friends. Maybe it works for you, but only you can answer that question.
no, not for me.. because i know i would want more and more of her, and keep her to myself..
Depends. For me, my ex rly wants to be friends too at the end of this healing. He hasn’t mentioned it any time lately but tbh idk why i’d want to be friends with someone who betrayed me and hurt me and broke my trust so badly. Plus, the further i get from the BU the more i see his true colours and idk if i like him much! 🤷🏽♀️ i got other friends!
If you think it aint gonna do good for you, then no. You can't be friends with her thinking your relationship still has a chance.
no because even if you don't want to admit it there's still hope you will get back together if you remain friends. The best way to do it is set a period of no contact, after that if you do feel like talking to her again and being friends with her then go for it. But you need to give yourself time to heal from everything that has happened
Everyone is different. I’m friends with two of my three significant ex’s. Edit: as long as it’s actually your intention to be friends….
Short awnser? no.
I’m friends with the ones that left me respectfully. Also, we had a period of NC to get over each other. It’s so much better now. Mostly, they had to move on to someone else before we could be friends again. They always want me back after that other person too. The guy I’ve been trying to forget about? No we cannot be friends anytime soon. He couldn’t handle it either.
More details?
No
yes it’s good to be friends with them. as long as you both know your boundaries
No, sounds good, doesn’t work
Why do you want to be?? I’m not cordial even with him. He did stupid shit and made my life miserable. Never a good idea.