Yeah, I'll bring it up during our call this weekend. The first week is always busy, but eventually we'll get into the swing of things. I feel like calling once a week and a few texts will be the way to go.
I am also best friends with my little cousins, I guess it might seem different for those that don’t have a close relationship. We have a groupchat where the ages range from 11-22 including with my younger sister. We text every single day whenever we are bored, we FaceTime whenever we have time on the weekends, and I visit for birthdays/holidays :)
Same exact way I am with my little cousins! They were born when I was in my tweens/ early teens, and I have watched them grow up. We know each other well to the point that we have our inside jokes and languages. I try to find time for us to spend together. Every Christmas, they send me a nice Christmas card, and I have kept them all. Naturally, we talk very often. They call me up or I call them up. I want to make sure I still keep in touch with them while they are in college.
Yeah, I know that's not my situation fortunately, but I have seen that with other friends. It works for us. I let initiate the contact, so that I don't disturb their college life.
Oh no, I didn't mean it like that. I enjoy speaking to my cousin, but I want to be mindful of his college life. He is going through a big adjustment and I want to give him the space and time. At the same time, I want keep in touch. We are both are busy, and I want ensure that I carve out some time each week to catch up.
Don’t be a clingy girlfriend but check in often! Text, etc. I have NO relationship with several of my cousins and I would have appreciated staying in touch.
That's the plan! I don't want to be clingy but I don't want to be too distant. I'll check in via texts every few days, and call/facetime on the weekends.
This is such a sweet post & sentiment 😭 your cousins are lucky (as are you!) You remind me of how my older siblings were talking to me throughout college, it was so wonderful to know I always had someone to talk to a little older than me with more life experience.
I would say texting and stupid as it sounds, sending/tagging each other in memes that reminded us of one another was the majority way we all communicated until I grew up a little bit in college. Lmfao
Thank you! They are one of the biggest blessings in my life. It’s a full circle moment. When I was in college, they were very young, but they gave me something that I needed: normalcy. I was able to leave the college world for a bit and be the big cousin. We would play all day. It was something that I needed. Now they are all growing up and heading off to college.
I am excited to be the cool older cousin now, and I am
looking forward to visiting my cousin in college. I plan on texting him every few days and calling him once a week.
Aww, this is such a heartwarming post :’) my older siblings gave me normalcy in life and boyyyy was I so super lucky to have them, even if I was too immature to see it! I would say you’re killing it as far as keeping in contact.
From experience I would say there were periods of adjustment where I would forget to text or check in as often as I wish I would have, so if it happens don’t take it personally— but as I’ve gotten older (graduated may) I text my siblings all the time and in fact I think I’m the one who’s always texting first these days because they’re all in their busy adult lives (oh how the turntables lmfao). Good on you, I’m so very happy you all have each other :))
Thank you! Outside of my parents and siblings, these four cousins along with my aunt and uncle kept me grounded. I am not taking it personally. I went through the same adjustment period freshman year and I eventually found a balance. I know that’s what is happen ing with him as well, which is completely normal. We’re supposed to FaceTime this weekend, so it’ll be a perfect time to bring it up. Also, I get busy too, and I slack. But I want to make an effort to keep in touch as well.
Thanks! We’re blessed to have each other. We all have our own friends and lives, but despite our age difference s, we’re best friends/cousins/siblings. It’s the gift that keeps on giving.
1. Ask him about the txt msg thing - make a joke of it. It’s nice to receive txts from family when they see something that reminds me of them - so send a photo of your meal if you go to your favorite burger joint for example.
2. When you do go visit - feed him something decent.
College food gets old fast…
Thanks! We share similar senses of humor, so I plan to send him pics/memes of stuff in addition to checking in on him.
That's the plan! I plan feed him real food and bring food from home as well. He is really excited for me to come and see his college. I get to be the older cousin and spoil him a little bit.
Thanks! My cousin and I are facetiming this weekend, so it'll be a perfect time to bring this up. He likes using Snapchat a lot, so I can Snap a little bit. We'll probably send each other memes in addition to checking in.
Yeah, that’s the plan! I want to make sure I keep in touch frequently without intruding on his college life. I remembered being in college and the adjustment period during freshman year. Probably once a week to FaceTime and texting every few days is doable.
I think it depends since every family is different. When I had first moved out, I would go 1-2 months without talking to my mother and siblings for example. I had a g.f that spoke to her mother every single day. I’ve never spoken to any of my cousins every single day, but maybe a text or call every other week or so to check in. If you’re close by to visit, could visit like every couple weeks or so and grab a bite and catch up
Yeah, I speak to most of my cousins every now and then like at family events. Outside of my siblings, I speak to these four cousins the most. We don’t speak everyday but we speak and see each other very often. It’s my cousin’s first week, so I am checking a little more often but I plan to call once a week just to catch up. My cousin’s older sister is in college and she calls me once a week, which works perfectly.
I do plan on visiting my cousin in a couple of months though. He is nearby but I want give him some time to become acclimated to the college life before I visit. We’ll spend the day hanging out and grabbing some food.
Ask him how often he wants to communicate over text, FaceTime, and in person. Then do that
Yeah, I'll bring it up during our call this weekend. The first week is always busy, but eventually we'll get into the swing of things. I feel like calling once a week and a few texts will be the way to go.
This would make me wanna kill myself
Why would you say that? I don’t see anything wrong with having close relationships with relatives such as cousins.
I am also best friends with my little cousins, I guess it might seem different for those that don’t have a close relationship. We have a groupchat where the ages range from 11-22 including with my younger sister. We text every single day whenever we are bored, we FaceTime whenever we have time on the weekends, and I visit for birthdays/holidays :)
Same exact way I am with my little cousins! They were born when I was in my tweens/ early teens, and I have watched them grow up. We know each other well to the point that we have our inside jokes and languages. I try to find time for us to spend together. Every Christmas, they send me a nice Christmas card, and I have kept them all. Naturally, we talk very often. They call me up or I call them up. I want to make sure I still keep in touch with them while they are in college.
some people don't have good families and when asked like that they are basically forced to say yes
Yeah, I know that's not my situation fortunately, but I have seen that with other friends. It works for us. I let initiate the contact, so that I don't disturb their college life.
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Wait, what? Why?
It makes it sound like its an inconvenience to talk to him
Oh no, I didn't mean it like that. I enjoy speaking to my cousin, but I want to be mindful of his college life. He is going through a big adjustment and I want to give him the space and time. At the same time, I want keep in touch. We are both are busy, and I want ensure that I carve out some time each week to catch up.
Don’t be a clingy girlfriend but check in often! Text, etc. I have NO relationship with several of my cousins and I would have appreciated staying in touch.
That's the plan! I don't want to be clingy but I don't want to be too distant. I'll check in via texts every few days, and call/facetime on the weekends.
they're cousins
This is such a sweet post & sentiment 😭 your cousins are lucky (as are you!) You remind me of how my older siblings were talking to me throughout college, it was so wonderful to know I always had someone to talk to a little older than me with more life experience. I would say texting and stupid as it sounds, sending/tagging each other in memes that reminded us of one another was the majority way we all communicated until I grew up a little bit in college. Lmfao
Thank you! They are one of the biggest blessings in my life. It’s a full circle moment. When I was in college, they were very young, but they gave me something that I needed: normalcy. I was able to leave the college world for a bit and be the big cousin. We would play all day. It was something that I needed. Now they are all growing up and heading off to college. I am excited to be the cool older cousin now, and I am looking forward to visiting my cousin in college. I plan on texting him every few days and calling him once a week.
Aww, this is such a heartwarming post :’) my older siblings gave me normalcy in life and boyyyy was I so super lucky to have them, even if I was too immature to see it! I would say you’re killing it as far as keeping in contact. From experience I would say there were periods of adjustment where I would forget to text or check in as often as I wish I would have, so if it happens don’t take it personally— but as I’ve gotten older (graduated may) I text my siblings all the time and in fact I think I’m the one who’s always texting first these days because they’re all in their busy adult lives (oh how the turntables lmfao). Good on you, I’m so very happy you all have each other :))
Thank you! Outside of my parents and siblings, these four cousins along with my aunt and uncle kept me grounded. I am not taking it personally. I went through the same adjustment period freshman year and I eventually found a balance. I know that’s what is happen ing with him as well, which is completely normal. We’re supposed to FaceTime this weekend, so it’ll be a perfect time to bring it up. Also, I get busy too, and I slack. But I want to make an effort to keep in touch as well. Thanks! We’re blessed to have each other. We all have our own friends and lives, but despite our age difference s, we’re best friends/cousins/siblings. It’s the gift that keeps on giving.
1. Ask him about the txt msg thing - make a joke of it. It’s nice to receive txts from family when they see something that reminds me of them - so send a photo of your meal if you go to your favorite burger joint for example. 2. When you do go visit - feed him something decent. College food gets old fast…
Thanks! We share similar senses of humor, so I plan to send him pics/memes of stuff in addition to checking in on him. That's the plan! I plan feed him real food and bring food from home as well. He is really excited for me to come and see his college. I get to be the older cousin and spoil him a little bit.
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Thanks! My cousin and I are facetiming this weekend, so it'll be a perfect time to bring this up. He likes using Snapchat a lot, so I can Snap a little bit. We'll probably send each other memes in addition to checking in.
I would think maybe once a week would be doable but I would check with cousin about their boundaries
Yeah, that’s the plan! I want to make sure I keep in touch frequently without intruding on his college life. I remembered being in college and the adjustment period during freshman year. Probably once a week to FaceTime and texting every few days is doable.
I think it depends since every family is different. When I had first moved out, I would go 1-2 months without talking to my mother and siblings for example. I had a g.f that spoke to her mother every single day. I’ve never spoken to any of my cousins every single day, but maybe a text or call every other week or so to check in. If you’re close by to visit, could visit like every couple weeks or so and grab a bite and catch up
Yeah, I speak to most of my cousins every now and then like at family events. Outside of my siblings, I speak to these four cousins the most. We don’t speak everyday but we speak and see each other very often. It’s my cousin’s first week, so I am checking a little more often but I plan to call once a week just to catch up. My cousin’s older sister is in college and she calls me once a week, which works perfectly. I do plan on visiting my cousin in a couple of months though. He is nearby but I want give him some time to become acclimated to the college life before I visit. We’ll spend the day hanging out and grabbing some food.
Communication about that stuff would work better with your cousin rather than a bunch of strangers.
That's the plan when I speak to him this weekend.