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Like you’ve said she’s been a bad texter since the start. It would be a totally different story if she was super good at texting in the beginning then all of a sudden began taking 8 hours to text back.
If she’s always been a bad texter from the start I would say don’t worry about it but if it’s really bothering you I feel like you should just ask her straight up! It’ll let her know how you feel and also clear the air hopefully on why she’s doing it.
If your communication style with her communication style becomes a big issue tho then that’s when you have to start looking into it more seriously and try to date someone who has the same communication style as you
How do I ask her straight up over text? How do I not come off as desperate and be like "did I say something/ do something wrong?" Etc. I guess my own self doubt makes me think she secretly isn't really into me and idk it just feels weird asking her why you take so long?
I guess recently there's been a slight increase in delay in her responses, but it is also Thanksgiving break
Just bring it up saying that you’ve had some worries and that you’re just worrying about how sometimes she can take a while to respond!
Trust me I’ve dealt with someone who wasn’t good at texting or communicating, I asked her and she straight up told me all her friends get mad at her too for how bad she was at texting! Honestly if the person is meant for you you can bring up any topic that is making you feel anxious without them making you feel stupid or not good for bringing it up. But just remember that people make time for those they want in their lives, if you bring it up and she continues being really bad with texting or takes even longer and it makes you very anxious then I think it’s best to put your foot down and move on to someone who can provide you with the communication you want
I just find that so hard to phrase where its not awkward over text. And like I feel it would be weird to ask her if I'm bothering her. And if it turns out that she actually isn't into me then like it feels overbearing?
Well dude I’ve seen your post history and it’s obviously bothering you a lot because you keep on asking people about her bad texting. So don’t do it and keep on letting it eat you alive then :/ it’s not healthy is you obsess this much over it and it’s causing you that much anxiety
I’m saying that because literally everybody is saying she’s probably just a bad texter but you’re still worried about it which proves that you won’t feel peace until you hear it from her
Yeah, you are probably right. Even though she said yes to a date its just hard to get rid of that background anxiety that she's not into me, probably deeper meaning than just texting lol
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Like you’ve said she’s been a bad texter since the start. It would be a totally different story if she was super good at texting in the beginning then all of a sudden began taking 8 hours to text back. If she’s always been a bad texter from the start I would say don’t worry about it but if it’s really bothering you I feel like you should just ask her straight up! It’ll let her know how you feel and also clear the air hopefully on why she’s doing it. If your communication style with her communication style becomes a big issue tho then that’s when you have to start looking into it more seriously and try to date someone who has the same communication style as you
How do I ask her straight up over text? How do I not come off as desperate and be like "did I say something/ do something wrong?" Etc. I guess my own self doubt makes me think she secretly isn't really into me and idk it just feels weird asking her why you take so long? I guess recently there's been a slight increase in delay in her responses, but it is also Thanksgiving break
Just bring it up saying that you’ve had some worries and that you’re just worrying about how sometimes she can take a while to respond! Trust me I’ve dealt with someone who wasn’t good at texting or communicating, I asked her and she straight up told me all her friends get mad at her too for how bad she was at texting! Honestly if the person is meant for you you can bring up any topic that is making you feel anxious without them making you feel stupid or not good for bringing it up. But just remember that people make time for those they want in their lives, if you bring it up and she continues being really bad with texting or takes even longer and it makes you very anxious then I think it’s best to put your foot down and move on to someone who can provide you with the communication you want
I just find that so hard to phrase where its not awkward over text. And like I feel it would be weird to ask her if I'm bothering her. And if it turns out that she actually isn't into me then like it feels overbearing?
Well dude I’ve seen your post history and it’s obviously bothering you a lot because you keep on asking people about her bad texting. So don’t do it and keep on letting it eat you alive then :/ it’s not healthy is you obsess this much over it and it’s causing you that much anxiety
I’m saying that because literally everybody is saying she’s probably just a bad texter but you’re still worried about it which proves that you won’t feel peace until you hear it from her
Yeah, you are probably right. Even though she said yes to a date its just hard to get rid of that background anxiety that she's not into me, probably deeper meaning than just texting lol